Asia Conference (AC) has been a mind-blowing, awesome experience for me.

Unlike the repeatitive Emerge-s that we had, AC is fresh and inspiring to every individual.

Be it if you're a foreign delegate or a local church goer, your life will never be the same again after attending this first ever conference in Asia.

I've got many many "take-aways" during this conference.

I saw the zest and excitement that the delegates had. Seeing how hungry and sacrificial they are to queue, their urgency for greater blessings makes me ask myself what can I do to love God more. Watching Sun's video everyday made me realise that the world needs more love and we can provide for them. I've learnt to be a better giver myself, a person with greater compassion for the needy. True enough, God has been blessing me tremendously after my daily givings. I want to impact the market place and penetrate into the "3rd space" so that I can stand between the living and the dead to share God's love with the people.

I fasted and prayed and I will see a breakthrouh that's coming!

 

Hey peeps!

Exactly one week since the end of my examinations.

It was very fruitful.

Did filming w Mediacorp for a new show..

Went out with my friends...

movies with R&D..

fellowship with my CG, water bap svcs..

chill out w senior minister wan and my buds..

of cuz went for a nice date w baby..

more and more events coming up...

had a mtg w the (previously known "EDGE") committe..

the next one for Dec is coming up soon so stay-tuned.

WYZ's gonna haf a series of campus activities..

n my boss is gonna be a REVEREND soon in this coming inaugural Asia Conference!!

Wat's more exciting den to have a week packed with so many activities yea?

Got myself sick with cough but i'm recovering pretty fast!!!!

 

tis wk is gonna be soooo fun.. 18 - 23th Nov will be a season to rmb where our church is hosting our first Asia Conference!

soooo excited... =)

 

Congrats to Angel Lee, Rachel, Mervin and Angel Yap!
I'm so proud of them! They're finally water baptized!
Especially for Angel who has waited for her breakthru for soooo many years.

God has once again vindicated that nothing is impossible!
For more photos, click on --> W453

Quite excited actually. Its my first time having my own mbrs water baptized since being a ldr for 1.25 years!

not bad la.. 4 at one go. That will work out to 1 mbr quarterly.

haha... praying for the rest of the mbrs to have their breakthrus too...

And i took a special photo w my pretty sister - Bee! Isn't she stunning! *whistles... breakthru in her dressing sia!!!!

 

-@win 

Do Opposites Attract?

She drives a Lexus, he rides a Harley; she's a sports nut, he's a bookworm; he's a Republican, she's a Democrat. Do opposites really attract? Is it good if they do?

It depends what you mean by "opposite." "I believe unresolved patterns attract," says Paul Cutright, author of You're Never Upset for the Reason You Think. Cutright, along with his wife Layne, run the Center for Enlightened Partnerships in Las Vegas. "What most people call falling in love is really falling in pattern," he says. "Relationships are about getting our own needs met, often on an unconscious basis. In other words, we try to find someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow."

In a study published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences in July of 2003, researchers quizzed 978 heterosexual residents of Ithaca, N.Y., between the ages of 18 and 24. First, the participants rated the importance of 10 attributes of a long-term partner, and then rated themselves on the same scale. When the results were tallied, self-perception was more likely to match mate perception.

This conclusion was: "In Western society, humans use neither an 'opposites-attract' nor a 'reproductive-potentials-attract' rule in their choice of long-term partners, but rather a 'likes-attract' rule based on a preference for partners who are similar to themselves across a number of characteristics."

Those People Were Not Married, Though

"I don't really think opposites do attract," says William Ickes, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Arlington and author of Empathic Accuracy. "But the study did not look at marital stability; these young people were not married. Reality is more complicated than that."

Someone once said, Ickes recalls, that if opposites didn't attract somewhat, everyone on the planet would be asexual or gay. "But you look for a complement, not someone identical," he says.

Elements of Attraction

What are some significant ways people can be alike or opposite?

• Physical attractiveness. "I think we seek a certain level of attractiveness similar to our own," Ickes says. "The Beast looks for Beauty, not the other way around." If unattractive people pursue attractive people, they are not as likely to be successful, so soon stop doing it.
• Money. If you have zero dollars, you may aspire "to hook up with a mate who's loaded," Ickes says, "but what is the chance this person is interested in you?"
• Desire for children. If the desire for a family is a source of contention, similarity of desire might be better, Ickes says.
• Religion. "I know some successful mixed marriages," Ickes says. "If you respect and tolerate the differences and don't use the kids as pawns, you can choose your own [spiritual] path."
• Class. "How often do you see an aristocrat marry a commoner in real life?" Ickes asks. "That's so rare you only see it in the movies."
• Education. "Educated people do not tend to marry stupid people," Ickes says. "But uneducated people can be smart. You need to be able to talk, interact, and share world views."

"We are flattering ourselves as social scientists if we think we can intervene in these matters," Ickes laughs. "People who have studied attachment pretty much have learned that if two people are physically proximate and neither does bad things to the other, they can fall in love. They just have to be around each other enough. People do not look at a spreadsheet or checklist."

The Match Game

Yet -- Ickes points out -- matching people is now a growth industry. Susan K. Perry, PhD, a social psychologist and author of Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, is also a psychologist for an online dating service. Perry says, "People tend to look for almost a clone of themselves. They are very specific -- too specific."

In the real world, Perry says, you may find more appeal in someone who is different in some ways. "The key is, which ways?" she says.

What might be a bad way to be opposite? "I'd say if one was an avid sports fan, watching and playing, and the mate only likes to read, that couple might have difficulties," Perry says.

What if one was detail conscious and the other was "big picture" oriented? This might be a better set of opposites, she says.

Bottom line: If the people's values and ways they want to spend time are different, this could lead to "big trouble," Perry says.

As for looks, people think they deserve more than someone inferior in looks, she says.

Seeing Into the Future

The study cited above showed people take their own inventory and compare it against possible mates. Do people really do this? "I don't think so," Perry says. "A lot of people don't bother. They make up a shopping list instead."

While in the "market," do they evaluate the goods carefully? "People don't know how to see traits and extrapolate to the future," Perry says. "You don't notice a guy leaves a small tip every time and think, 'Uh-oh, he's stingy.'"

Once people do notice the differences, that's where the changing comes in, Perry says. One tries to change the other (this can eliminate the opposite traits that were tantalizing in the first place).

Do "likes" have more stable relationships? There is a huge body of research that says yes to this. "But stable isn't always happy," Perry points out. "So much depends on the willingness to be tolerant of the differences. It helps if one person in the couple is more easy-going than the other."

Genetically, finding someone different in many ways means a diversity of genes and healthier offspring.

"You need a certain amount of strangeness," concludes Perry. "Some people spend 30 years fighting over elections -- and canceling each other's vote every time."

Star Lawrence is a medical journalist based in the Phoenix area.

Check out my new hp!
Sony Ericsoon W980!

 

My 1-mth long awaited exams are finally over!!
only one word to describe my feeling - RELIEVED

I'm not too used to the exam format in Uni.
I used to do 3 modules all in one week, 3 consec days, back-to-back.
Xiong.. but finish very fast.. pretty excited..
I'm quite 'sick' in my mindset, judging from all the training I had, I like to 'suffer' all at one go.
For this BBMKG, my papers are spread across a month... LONG-SUFFEING..

My holidays are depleted because of this reason oso..
But.. its finally over.. Lots of things to do..

 

First up.. DRIVING!

Yes, you didn't hear wrongly. I'm learning driving!!!
Those that know me well will know that I hate to do what 'normal' guys do!
I hate gadgets, computers, phones, cars etc..
But I love...shopping!!! Pure coincidence..
I'm still quite straight as you can see.. I'm attached as you know
So don't let your thoughts stray.. *lol

But after much consideration.. to save cost.. save transportation.. (esp from one end to another end of the island), I've decided to pick up this neccessity skill

Xiong.. very ex.. but thank God for "El-Shaddai"... haha..not God but someone else.. hehe...
My mum lar!

Next.. I'm gg to sign a new hp plan!!!
SingTel's latest student plan promotion!!!
Wad's the catch? FREE UNLIMITED SMS TO ALL OPERATORS!
Meaning? Haha.. u'll know..

Don't be surprise if you can my sms in "word" format..
Meaning: "H" "E" "L" "L" "O"..... etc..
I'll FLOOD you FOC! Muahahaha....

And i MIGHT get a new hp too.. mmmm...
Isn't it good to give to God and be so blessed?
You bet! Err... sorry.. Christians can't bet..

Of cuz!!!
I can't wait to share more of my holiday blessings..

 

My top priority now is to get a job! I need $$$$!!!
haha... any reccomendations? Above $1K at least!!! lol..

Breakthru mindset!!!

Well, I hope to blog more... but MSN is giving a lot of problem.
Can't access to my blog at all. (This post took me 3 days just to upload)

Till den,